Some weeks ago I stumbled on the picture below, Lilian Esoro was felicitating with her estranged husband Ubi Franklin on his birthday when one desperate skank with the IG handle flawless ada jumped on the thread and hurled profanities on Lilian.
Trust Nigerian's and our innate investigate skills, they traced the uncouth creature to her handle and they came for her with all the weapons in their arsenal.
The craziest part of the drama was that the lady in question also posted birthday wishes on her timeline for Ubi,and her friend called him her boyfriend and she didn't correct this "error". Someone's husband is your boyfriend??? 😱 I was shocked beyond expression, so side chics have evolved to this extent.
No longer are they the figment of our wildest imaginations, neither to be seen nor head but now a phenomenon.
These ladies are no longer comfortable with the sidelines, they are tired of playing assistant madam to the main squeeze,they want to be in the mainstream and they will sell their souls to Hades for the cause, damning the consequences. Before i proceed I'll like to state that there is a clear cut difference between a side chic and a stress reliever. Side chics reside in another sphere.
Also if your partner has random affairs with random women then he isn't into the side chic thingy at least in most cases. He is just a philanderer whose main quest in life is to conquer as many vagina's as possible and bear in mind that his quest will continue until the random honey pots decide to upgrade and acquire some standard. This however is almost impossible,so I strongly suggest that you get yourself tested often and pray he calls his randy self to other. His "feelings" for you might still be intact but his "equipment" isn't.
I'll love to split side chics into two categories.
1. The victims
2. The bitches
THE VICTIMS are your average reasonable young ladies who just wants to meet the guy of their dreams, get married, breed cute kids, adopt puppies, do some charity,successfully pursue a career, be a stay at home mom etc and they meet CHIMA.
CHIMA is a tall dark glass of chocolate,can shame the queen with his beautiful, rich grasp of the English language, has a good sense of humour, has this highly sexy baritone voice, rides a nice automobile, earns a six digit salary, treats you like a goddess, tells her you're beautiful and looks like he means it and then no wedding bands insight.... Yaay!!!
She literally forgets her brain in her wardrobe,and wakes up every morning thanking the universe for her good fortune. The relationship blossoms until the day she finds out her true status. She is inconsolable, she feels used and played, all his excuses she once thought where kinda cute suddenly becomes filled with holes. He profusely apologies, telling her he loves her more, bla bla...
Sadly she is in love and love isn't a thing you just arbitrarily discard. She acts tough for a while and she rolls back into smooth CHIMA's deceitful arms. Praying for some miracle that she can't explain. They most times end up as baby mama's.
Settling for less because of fear.
CHIMA is balling... He is eating the proverbial cake and having it.
THE BITCHES as the name implies means they are bitches(pardon my tautology). They are nothing like the victims. These ones are vicious and have no scrupples with rolling in the hay with a man spoken for. Sometimes they do the chasing and other times CHIMA does the chasing. You don't need to take off your wedding bands when going after this category, even if you do, it doesn't count, provided they "like" you . CHIMA's marriage is just another statistic. All they want is his time, attention, affection, finance, the "D", practically almost everything a legit partner is entitled to when they are fully aware of their illegitimate status.
At this stage CHIMA thinks he is uber smart until the bitch catches more feelings and demands for his heart or basically demands for equal rights. Then a problem arises. It's like running two homes...unofficially.
Now, the side chics are not the only ones susceptible to feelings in this scenario. It could be that CHIMA suddenly realizes that he loves being around the side chic more than his partner for no particular reasons or worse realizes that he never loved his partner . At this point he has unconsciously alienated his feelings for his legit partner or split the feelings between both parties.
It's almost unnatural to be in love with two different people at the same time.
It gets confusing because people cannot tell who the main squeeze or the side chic is. It gets further complicated if CHIMA is married.
His side piece is pressuring him to divorce his wife since he claims to love her and not his wife, CHIMA can't just dissolve his marriage but he weighs both options.
Back in the days the side chic would probably get her co wild friends to waylay the legit partner and beat her up or threaten her but social media has now made things easier for a minute. People like flawless ada invade the partner's wall and steer up controversies such as this. Automatically she has caused a rift between the partners.
Am not unaware of the fact that people are in loveless marriages and find love with side chics but like I'll always posit " wait till you find love before getting married". If you're tired of your spouse or can't love her anymore,divorce them because your indiscretions will someday fish you out. It's unfair for you to put your partner through taking strange calls at strange hours with strange names such as " small chops" or "edible Catering" etc.
You practically turn your partner into an Federal Agent, snooping around and investigating like it's a high profile crime scene.
Am not an expert in relationships and marriage and I cannot categorically tell a wife who has to deal with her husband's side chic what to do but if there's one thing to do its "never confront the side chic".
The only "real edge" you have at that point is the ring which she could take from you and if you don't act right. As for confronting him, well that depends but I strongly recommend prayers because at this point you need God to literally rise from his throne to change the situation or say hello to a baby mama, a co-wife or an outright divorce.
Don't play yourself by thinking that because you're the wife, you have some exceptional covering or benefits because you don't... she gets the same hot coitus, birthday messages, gifts, cash, calls, texts, explanations... Just name it... You need to get those knees down in prayers and supplication not because you're unrealistic but because this battle is beyond your capacity. We are Africans let's not also over rule the place of voodoo and black magic.
In a relationship I'll advice you to quit, it's a lost cause on almost every line of reasoning. He shouldn't make you compete with some skank for his love. Truth is she'll most likely win because she is hungrier than you are for CHIMA. You deserve better.
To the ladies who go after or are with people's partners especially husbands, I tell you this day its shameful and whorish especially when you're aware he's taken. The love or lust you share pales significantly in the face of matrimony.
Marriage is an institution like no other and should be revered. God forbid that you be the agent of its destruction. Let him go, for the sake of your dignity at least, have some self respect. Don't subject yourself to the curses his wife hurls at you every day in prayers. Let's assume you win and you're upgraded to bae who is to say that he won't also meet another in the future and alienate his feelings for you... He did it once he can do it again. He isn't God's gift to women, women should learn to stick together because men cheat on their wives because there is always a willing woman. Don't be the willing woman,be the strong, independent woman. Don't be a baby mama, don't be a side chic, don't be that dirty secret... Don't be like flawless Ada...
Stay Woke
Yours will come...eventually. Till then say no to CHIMA and his kind.
NB...This trend isn't exclusive to women, some men are side cocks. The difference is that most dudes in this set up don't mind. They are here to occupy until the owner comes... They are satisfied with the physical and don't go about catching feelings or acting erratic like an overgrown baby. They enjoy it while it lasts and cut their "losses" when it crumbles. Either way it's not a situation I think any self respecting person should be in.
This Article was written by Uzoma Lauretta Okonkwo. She is a 25 years old Lawyer who loves to write in her spare time. Uzoma enjoys reading, writing, surfing the web and traveling. She has a keen interest in Art, Literature, Culture and Youth empowerment. She loves history and is a proven addict of epic movies.
You can connect with Uzoma on her Facebook page for more of her interesting stories via her handle on: Uzzie Lau Okonkwo.
Trust Nigerian's and our innate investigate skills, they traced the uncouth creature to her handle and they came for her with all the weapons in their arsenal.
The craziest part of the drama was that the lady in question also posted birthday wishes on her timeline for Ubi,and her friend called him her boyfriend and she didn't correct this "error". Someone's husband is your boyfriend??? 😱 I was shocked beyond expression, so side chics have evolved to this extent.
No longer are they the figment of our wildest imaginations, neither to be seen nor head but now a phenomenon.
These ladies are no longer comfortable with the sidelines, they are tired of playing assistant madam to the main squeeze,they want to be in the mainstream and they will sell their souls to Hades for the cause, damning the consequences. Before i proceed I'll like to state that there is a clear cut difference between a side chic and a stress reliever. Side chics reside in another sphere.
Also if your partner has random affairs with random women then he isn't into the side chic thingy at least in most cases. He is just a philanderer whose main quest in life is to conquer as many vagina's as possible and bear in mind that his quest will continue until the random honey pots decide to upgrade and acquire some standard. This however is almost impossible,so I strongly suggest that you get yourself tested often and pray he calls his randy self to other. His "feelings" for you might still be intact but his "equipment" isn't.
I'll love to split side chics into two categories.
1. The victims
2. The bitches
THE VICTIMS are your average reasonable young ladies who just wants to meet the guy of their dreams, get married, breed cute kids, adopt puppies, do some charity,successfully pursue a career, be a stay at home mom etc and they meet CHIMA.
CHIMA is a tall dark glass of chocolate,can shame the queen with his beautiful, rich grasp of the English language, has a good sense of humour, has this highly sexy baritone voice, rides a nice automobile, earns a six digit salary, treats you like a goddess, tells her you're beautiful and looks like he means it and then no wedding bands insight.... Yaay!!!
She literally forgets her brain in her wardrobe,and wakes up every morning thanking the universe for her good fortune. The relationship blossoms until the day she finds out her true status. She is inconsolable, she feels used and played, all his excuses she once thought where kinda cute suddenly becomes filled with holes. He profusely apologies, telling her he loves her more, bla bla...
Sadly she is in love and love isn't a thing you just arbitrarily discard. She acts tough for a while and she rolls back into smooth CHIMA's deceitful arms. Praying for some miracle that she can't explain. They most times end up as baby mama's.
Settling for less because of fear.
CHIMA is balling... He is eating the proverbial cake and having it.
THE BITCHES as the name implies means they are bitches(pardon my tautology). They are nothing like the victims. These ones are vicious and have no scrupples with rolling in the hay with a man spoken for. Sometimes they do the chasing and other times CHIMA does the chasing. You don't need to take off your wedding bands when going after this category, even if you do, it doesn't count, provided they "like" you . CHIMA's marriage is just another statistic. All they want is his time, attention, affection, finance, the "D", practically almost everything a legit partner is entitled to when they are fully aware of their illegitimate status.
At this stage CHIMA thinks he is uber smart until the bitch catches more feelings and demands for his heart or basically demands for equal rights. Then a problem arises. It's like running two homes...unofficially.
Now, the side chics are not the only ones susceptible to feelings in this scenario. It could be that CHIMA suddenly realizes that he loves being around the side chic more than his partner for no particular reasons or worse realizes that he never loved his partner . At this point he has unconsciously alienated his feelings for his legit partner or split the feelings between both parties.
It's almost unnatural to be in love with two different people at the same time.
It gets confusing because people cannot tell who the main squeeze or the side chic is. It gets further complicated if CHIMA is married.
His side piece is pressuring him to divorce his wife since he claims to love her and not his wife, CHIMA can't just dissolve his marriage but he weighs both options.
Back in the days the side chic would probably get her co wild friends to waylay the legit partner and beat her up or threaten her but social media has now made things easier for a minute. People like flawless ada invade the partner's wall and steer up controversies such as this. Automatically she has caused a rift between the partners.
Am not unaware of the fact that people are in loveless marriages and find love with side chics but like I'll always posit " wait till you find love before getting married". If you're tired of your spouse or can't love her anymore,divorce them because your indiscretions will someday fish you out. It's unfair for you to put your partner through taking strange calls at strange hours with strange names such as " small chops" or "edible Catering" etc.
You practically turn your partner into an Federal Agent, snooping around and investigating like it's a high profile crime scene.
Am not an expert in relationships and marriage and I cannot categorically tell a wife who has to deal with her husband's side chic what to do but if there's one thing to do its "never confront the side chic".
The only "real edge" you have at that point is the ring which she could take from you and if you don't act right. As for confronting him, well that depends but I strongly recommend prayers because at this point you need God to literally rise from his throne to change the situation or say hello to a baby mama, a co-wife or an outright divorce.
Don't play yourself by thinking that because you're the wife, you have some exceptional covering or benefits because you don't... she gets the same hot coitus, birthday messages, gifts, cash, calls, texts, explanations... Just name it... You need to get those knees down in prayers and supplication not because you're unrealistic but because this battle is beyond your capacity. We are Africans let's not also over rule the place of voodoo and black magic.
In a relationship I'll advice you to quit, it's a lost cause on almost every line of reasoning. He shouldn't make you compete with some skank for his love. Truth is she'll most likely win because she is hungrier than you are for CHIMA. You deserve better.
To the ladies who go after or are with people's partners especially husbands, I tell you this day its shameful and whorish especially when you're aware he's taken. The love or lust you share pales significantly in the face of matrimony.
Marriage is an institution like no other and should be revered. God forbid that you be the agent of its destruction. Let him go, for the sake of your dignity at least, have some self respect. Don't subject yourself to the curses his wife hurls at you every day in prayers. Let's assume you win and you're upgraded to bae who is to say that he won't also meet another in the future and alienate his feelings for you... He did it once he can do it again. He isn't God's gift to women, women should learn to stick together because men cheat on their wives because there is always a willing woman. Don't be the willing woman,be the strong, independent woman. Don't be a baby mama, don't be a side chic, don't be that dirty secret... Don't be like flawless Ada...
Stay Woke
Yours will come...eventually. Till then say no to CHIMA and his kind.
NB...This trend isn't exclusive to women, some men are side cocks. The difference is that most dudes in this set up don't mind. They are here to occupy until the owner comes... They are satisfied with the physical and don't go about catching feelings or acting erratic like an overgrown baby. They enjoy it while it lasts and cut their "losses" when it crumbles. Either way it's not a situation I think any self respecting person should be in.
This Article was written by Uzoma Lauretta Okonkwo. She is a 25 years old Lawyer who loves to write in her spare time. Uzoma enjoys reading, writing, surfing the web and traveling. She has a keen interest in Art, Literature, Culture and Youth empowerment. She loves history and is a proven addict of epic movies.
You can connect with Uzoma on her Facebook page for more of her interesting stories via her handle on: Uzzie Lau Okonkwo.
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