BUY LAND IN IBEJU LEKKI

DO YOU DREAM OF OWNING YOUR OWN LAND OR YOU JUST LIKE TO INVEST IN REAL ESTATE?

Then you should not miss out of the opportunity of buying into lands in Ibeju-lekki rightly tagged the "banana island" of the future.

Lands in this area are projected to appreciate faster than any Lagos land because of the major structural and infrastructural developments going on in the region namely:

1) The region has been declared a tax free zone: what does this mean for you as a buyer you ask? it means many businesses looking at taking advantage of the incentive will be inclined to locate their offices and factory there. In other words, whether you choose to eventually live there or resell your lands, there would have been an astronomical appreciation of your property. COOL!!!

2) Dangote Refinery: If you are a Nigerian, you know the power of the brand and if you are not let's just say its a super brand. we are talking about a business set to employ about #30,000 Nigerians, that's a lot of projected human influx. Wouldn't you key into these areas before the prices go off the roof?

3) Shoprite, International Airport etc.: in summary, the list of structures to develop the area is unending. Don't take our words for it and conduct a little research by yourself. You will be impressed.

Importantly, our lands are free from government acquisition and "omo-onile" troubles. We give you value for your money.

Call Basirat on 08137636614 today to inquire further and set up an inspection.

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EMOTIONAL WELLBEING OF AN ACCUSED PERSON

I watched an episode of a legal series on TV called “the good wife”. On this particular episode, an accused person is charged with the offence of murder and was looking at a life imprisonment sentence. He had the option of taking a plea deal of 8 years but refused because he affirmed he was innocent and was willing to take his chances with the jury. While the matter was ongoing in court, counsel on the prosecution and defense side were conferring with the judge on whether a witness should be allowed to testify in the matter. In the usual rapport of lawyers and judges, they argued and eventually turned this into a joke and were seen laughing heartily while the accused person looked on, confused as to what could be really funny while his life hangs in the balance. He looked at the jury and members of the gallery with tears in his eyes, no one looked at him more than a criminal charged for killing a person. I guess it was at this point he decided there was no way the case was going to go his way. He looked around and saw the gun of the officer in court exposed. He managed to get it and ended up shooting a number of people in the court room, his lawyer and tried killing himself but he was out of bullet. Suffice to say this is a sad outcome but not totally shocking given the psychological state of mind of an accused person especially an innocent one.

My job as a first-year state counsel at the department of public prosecution exposes me to a lot of criminal prosecution. I get to see accused robbers, murderers, child-molesters and the likes of them in the prosecution of offenders in pursuit of the administration of criminal justice. I observe that the usual countenance of the officers of the state, the police, the warders that keep these accused persons in custody is usually one of guilt and indifference; and this is before they have been convicted by the court.

I have observed lawyers in court converse with their colleagues, Judges, Investigating Police Officers (IPO), families of the accused person in a way that is very indifferent to the cause of the accused while the latter looks on sadly often times physically and emotionally drained from his place at the dock. For some reasons, his lawyer after arguing sternly about the unfairness of not responding to an application by the opposing party leading to a further delay in his incarceration and count-down to his acquittal still manages to share a hearty laugh with his colleague just shortly after been upset. I would often look at the dock to see how they feel. Does this person feel like his lawyer or the judge doesn’t care enough for his situation to find humour in his very saddening situation?

I know that as lawyers we are taught in school and in the course of early practice to learn to distance our personal feelings from our jobs. I think however that we need to do more. We need to care more. A person living in a deplorable state in incarceration while his life hangs in the balance doesn’t understand that you do this every day and it is usual to see criminals now and then hence your immunity. If we are to even consider a state where opposing party doesn’t care whether an accused person is innocent or guilty I think it is the duty of his own lawyer to do more. It is absolutely unfair and cruel to laugh at silly things in court while your client is unsure of his future survival.

The job of a lawyer is not only to ensure exoneration of his client, he also owes him a duty of care; a humane feeling towards his plight when the latter is going through the process. This I believe will to a large extent reduce depression and suicidal thoughts from the state of mind of an accused person.

WHY THE INTERNET IS MAKING US LAZY

We are at the end of the first quarter of the year, yet for a lot of us, we are not remotely close to achieving those resolutions for the year. Worst, some are scared of even trying.

It is easy to set a to-do list of aspirations and goals but a lot harder to venture into it. I was sure writing was a hobby of mine that I enjoyed doing but as the months and weeks run by, ideas run dry. At first it was easy for me to find excuses; poor power supply, inadequate internet etc. I haven’t had these challenges in a while yet it’s still a struggle.

 So what am I spending my time doing? Social media!!! Yes, I am unashamed to say as millions of others out there, all I want to do after work is curl up, grab my phone, catch up with Instagram; which by the way can take about 2-3 hours just to be in the know. 

Then snapchat; those 10 seconds clips aren’t so short BTW, “side eye Toke Makinwa and all of you with them long ass posts”.

 Finally, to the king of them all; TWITTER!!! I am tempted to grab my phone as I write this. Twitter is the worst form of entertainment sent to distract us from the real world. Those witty ones with the incredible hilarious responses. Don’t even get me started with the threads. Lol. 

So our problem isn’t so much as inadequacy but channeling your resources towards the vision. Yes, I can now authoritatively say this is easier said than done. Big kudos to those entrepreneurs and digital media influencers that keep their work going in the midst of all these. I need the real “deets” on how you all do it; the real deets too and not some sugar coated garbage that makes your job seem like abc…

So distracted millennials, this post is to inform you that it is true that you will get distracted, that no, it isn’t anyone from your village causing your distraction. Whenever you have these moments of clarity, you are ripe for a re-evaluation. 

While this for some will be cutting themselves off what caused the distraction in the first place, I have found that doing this temporarily might not be good in the long run as you find yourself binging on past stories on whatever day you choose to cheat and then fall back into the wagon. So a more realistic plan for me is to do everything in proportion. So by all means, get that tea but not at the detriment of your ambition. Evaluate your stated mission again, examine what you have done and what you haven’t, keep working and keep moving but anytime time you catch yourself derailing, remember what the goal was from the beginning. Look it over, dust yourself up and get back to the vision board. Do not ever stop working yourself and your dreams.

ANAL SEX TIPS FOR BEGINNERS

Culled from Cosmopolitan.com. Written by Kathryn Lindsay and Anna Breslaw. Enjoy!

I am about to say something unpleasant but important: The first time you have a finger in your ass, it feels like you have a finger in your ass. What did you think it would feel like?

Actually, the first five, 10, possibly 20 times, it feels like you have a finger in your ass. But at a certain point, if everything goes right, it'll feel like you have a finger in your ass accompanied by a spontaneous enhanced  uNiCoRn oRgAsM. It's hard to know, because everybody's different, and that includes each butthole-fingerer's individual skill. "So many women have bad first-time experiences and never want to do it again. Some guy shoved it in without preparing for the action," explains sexpert Dr. Emily Morse.

If you're dating a sexually ass-centric person, rather than a breast or leg or foot or right earlobe person, they'll probably want to give you many #ButtholePleasures. A good way to tell if you're dating someone ass-centric is if they request belfies, always want to have sex doggy-style, or try repeatedly to touch your asshole. You should never, ever do something you vehemently don't want to do just because your partner wants to, and if you're not ready for full-on anal sex, tell them.

But (BUTT! Ugh, sorry), if you want to experiment in that general area, here are some things to know about Base Camp 1, which consists of the stepping stones to anal sex: Fingers (anal fingering) and tongue (rimming, salad tossing, analingus).

1. It shouldn't hurt- This is where lube comes in. It should basically just feel like you might need to poop. You don't! (I hope you don't.) "Relax your muscles, and breathe," advises Dr. Emily. "Use a lot of water-based lubricant."

2. Start small- The whole point of anal play is to keep it simple before working your way up. "To prepare a bottom for sex play, start with fingers, tongue, or a very small sex toy designed for butt play," says clinical sexologoist Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce. "An option is to purchase a Butt Plug Kit that uses several plugs, of graduating sizes, just for this training."

3. The person doing it should err on the shallow side- Everything that goes in should be "just the tip." The nerve endings you're trying to stimulate are in the anus — hence the moniker "rimming" — and not all the way up there, which is generally the painful part and also the part that makes you feel like you need to take a huge dump. Imagine it like a basketball hoop, and the ball should just be rolling around the rim of the basket, not actually making the basket. Does that help? I know nothing about basketball.

4. There shouldn't be any rapid-fire movement immediately. Vigorous jamming of fingers anywhere should not happen immediately. "So much of sex is fast — especially in porn — but anal play has to be prepped," says Morse.

5. Communication is key- The only way to know what works and what doesn't is to be totally honest with you partner about what they're doing.  Dr. Pierce stresses the importance of always being tuned in to how the other is feeling and being vocal about your preferences.

6. It’s not dirty= As clinical sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk says, the anus and the lower part of the rectum actually have very little fecal material in them, which means it tends to not be nearly as dirty as you think.

7. That being said, you can totally clean things up- The key to anal play is comfort, so do whatever you need to help with any lingering anxiety. "Using an anal douche is not harmful if only done once in a while and might help you relax your concerns about your bowels," advises Dr. Pierce. You can use something as simple as warm water for a quick cleanse too.

8. It feels best when there's some additional stimulation going on. Vaginal, clitoral, nipple-centric — whichever feels best for you. While some women only need butt play à la carte, most women can't come from anal stimulation alone. "The anal part is something that's an accent. It adds to the overall experience," says Ian Kerner, sex expert, researcher, and author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. (Incidentally, women who have had anal sex report more frequent orgasms than those who haven't.) That being said...

9. Make sure your partner doesn't use the same butt finger in your vagina afterward. Why do you think The Shocker exists? Necessity is the mother of invention. "Baby wipes should be mandatory on every nightstand," says Morse.

10. If you try it a few times and hate it, don't keep trying it because you think it'll eventually be tolerable. "Assuming you have a considerate lover who's invested in you feeling good, I think you'd know within the first five times whether you like it or not," says Kerner, explaining that this depends on a variety of factors. "I've encountered women who hated receiving oral sex initially but love it now, and it was because they were self-conscious. It depends on your levels of inhibition, your feelings about your partner, your feelings about your body. If all these things are good to go, and you just don't like the sensation, you'll know pretty fast."

11. You don't need to get a wax. "Most women don't get Brazilians simply to engage in anal foreplay," says Kerner, based on his research. #Yep.

BEAUTY: EYE BROW THREADING

Brow threading is fast becoming a thing in Nigeria. For those who don’t know, brow threading is a hair removal method whereby the hairs on your brows are plucked out with a twist of cotton. This is of course done by a professional and in a systemic manner in other to give you desired form. It is not unusual to want to give it a try if you want full, luscious brows. However, threading like waxing can be traumatic for beginners but you don’t have to be unprepared. Here are the essentials to know before you thread your brows or say goodbye to “tiger razor blade”… those who know know. 

What you should know:

1)      Pain- the level of will depend on your tolerance level and especially the skill of the professional handling your brows. Imagine the sensation when you pluck out hair from any part of your body only this time intensified as a lot more is being removed consecutively over a short period of time.

2)      Don’t wear eye make-up before your appointment- the reason for this is because the process will get your make-up smudged besides, those tears that are bound to well up won’t make any foreign substance bearable on your face. Just keep it natural and pumping.



3)      Specify what particular shape you want- so you know how when you  trim your brows  at a new place and the person just feels like an expert and messes up your wicked arc and volume? It is the same way with threading. Be sure to specify to whoever is working on your brows your desired shape-form.

4)      Check the result before paying that Naira- the common thing between a pro brow threader and a hair stylist is that they are both cunny. Tell a stylist you don’t like a particular hair and they find a way to comb it out and make you see a future… that will disappear as soon as you look at yourself in your house mirror. When the threading is done and you are asked if you like it from a mere glance at a mirror, don’t be in a rush… examine it as carefully as you can before giving your consent. Don’t be embarrassed to ask for a further tweak if you find any stray strand. You are going to pay for that thing. Use your money’s worth!



5)      Soothing agent- after the process, you may notice that your brow region is red. The extent depends largely on your skin sensitivity. You may request for your local aloe-vera gel to be applied on it.



6)      Duration of redness- again, depending on your skin’s sensitivity, you may experience a longer or shorter duration than others. You should expect an average time frame of one hour or more before the skin around that region goes back to normal.

7)      Make-up- remember you didn’t use one while commencing; you shouldn’t be too fast to apply one on it after either. Make up can block your pores (which is widely opened after threading). You can get acne and other skin irritations when your pores are clogged. No one wants that so “hol up a minute” before all the extra stuff.

8)      Time for your next appointment- unlike your razor trimming where you have to check in on new growth every other week, with threading, you have about 4-5 weeks window before you are due for a new session. Lesser time to burn at the salon if you ask me.

Have you had your brows threaded before? Was it a yay or nay for you?

LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY

When you were little, you had such high expectations of the moment you finally pop the cherry with your lucky other.

 Moments you had read in the harlequin romance novels of the pretty good girl that kept it all wrapped in until her prince charming came riding along. It’s a sensual moment heightened by memories of times past. 

The Prince plays by the books, he pays attention, he is a total gentleman. Then someday totally unplanned, both characters get under the sheet. The girl has been prepared for this moment throughout the story. The Prince knows the exact place to kiss, touch and ultimately leading them to the final destination. Then gently he flips through her woman-folds, she seemed ready, he thrust into her gently, there is a forceful entrance and the movement is at first very slow, but he gains speed afterwards. The girl feels a sharp pain but the pain is quickly exchanged with pleasure, she begins to feel the vibe of it, she moans softly then harder and begins to feel the tingly sensation.  The relief cascades through the two of them and they both orgasm. It is the ultimate fantasy.

If only!!! The truth is, your first time is bound to be your worst sexual experience ever. 

 First, penetration is nothing like those poky fingers you two have been experimenting with in your frolicking days. It is fuller, stronger and very painful for a first timer.

Secondly, while it is notoriously known that the hymen is a thin layer that even a finger can tear, getting a fully erect penis to enter the actual vagina after “tearing” the hymen is another ball game for a virgin. It will hurt as hell and you may find yourself pushing your man away more than a few times.

Thirdly, after the penetration, most first timers want the penis out of the vagina as first as it came in. the last thing on your mind is to enjoy the euphoria of it let a alone have an orgasm. Dream on baby girl…

Fourthly, you are probably not going to enjoy any moment of losing your virginity other than the foreplay that led to it. You may want to scratch pleasure out of your expected returns from the experience.

Fifthly, the myth of the blood when the hymen is broken is true for most women; the quantity however varies among women. You may however not be aware that you may continually bleed after consequent sexual encounters over a period of time depending on your body.

Lastly and mostly as a hint, you should stock up on lubricant. The need cannot be over EMPHASIZED. Don’t be fooled by flavoured “singing” condoms or the cost of it. Get a well lubricated condom and an ample supply of lubricant; water or oil base. You will consequently discover your preference as your sexual taste develops. 

You may also think breaking the hymen is the only leap you have to take but not to burst your bubble, you may not get to enjoy sex for a couple of months as well. The amount of time your body uses to heal will depend first on your body and second on the frequency with which you continually have sex after the first time. If you have sex and go on a break for another three months, you are setting yourself up for another painful sexual encounter for your next time. So you want to continue to have sex with a lot of lubricant. The pain is still very much real at this stage.

You must be weary of the experience at this point, but not to worry, sex is not all pain and gloom, you will get to enjoy it; amazingly if I may add but you have to put in the work. Nothing good comes easy you know?

What was your first-time experience with sex like?